Time to act like a Queen
In your journal start to brainstorm and do some journaling on why you find it hard to say, ‘No’, what are you afraid of?
I realise this is not just a challenge that I or some of us face, but one that many people go through every day. It’s a heavy burden to carry because with the urge to say, ‘Yes’ also comes a lack of self-confidence, self-value, time and self-respect.
We realise we spend the day living in a mad rush trying to do so much for others, often feeling stressed and anxious about how much we need to get done without ever asking ourselves, if any of this brings us joy and happiness. Remember our biggest lesson so far
Our Happiness is our Number 1 Job
Saying, ‘No’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.
Yes, I’ll repeat that. Saying, ‘No’ does not mean you are a bad person.
In actual fact, it means you have self-respect, pride and value your time.
Saying, ‘No’ doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs and subconscious thoughts that we have learnt growing up that makes it hard to say, ‘No’ and does us no favours in life.
Do you ever wonder why it was so easy to say, ‘No’ when you were a little kid and why it has become so difficult now? What happened?
As children before we were taught anything, we would just say what we feel and only want to do things that we decided we wanted to do. If a kid has decided that they don't want to go to bed when it's bedtime they sure will let you know that they don't want to go to bed. Subsequently along the path of growing up we are taught and learn that saying, ‘No’ is impolite or inappropriate.<