A Lesson for all of us



It has been a hard lesson to learn and most of us women love to try and do, and be everything to everyone all the time. We then wonder why we have a breakdown feeling overwhelmed like the world is on top of us at times.


I genuinely had to get serious about taking this self-care wholeheartedly. Throughout the past and still at different points in my life I feel like I’m going to lose the plot, feeling so emotionally overwhelmed and at any point I could break. I love what I do, but it can become taxing, so full on mentally and physically and at times I do feel deflated, drained, totally exhausted, like I just couldn't continue putting 100% energy into everything the way I like too.


This is when I’ve had wake up calls, as no one enjoys the feeling of being on the edge, like any moment you could lose the plot and explode. When I feel like this it's a big sign and wakeup call that I’m not taking the adequate time I need to fill up my self-love, self-care bubble.


I mentioned earlier some of my daily rituals, but I don’t go light on this. I have so many as I’ve learnt that Carla really needs these to be at her best. I feel ok with sharing this as I’ve realised, I am such a better person when I make that time for me. I was once worried and ashamed of sharing this and felt that maybe I was being selfish. Just another limiting belief, I have now discovered, but for me it's become a MUST.


I’ll give you some ideas of what I do for me. I call this filling up my joy and happy tank. I have listed these incredible magic moments below and each one makes me smile from ear to ear.


I start most days with stillness and meditation, this is done without phones on or even in my vision. I feel the screen strain as soon as I look at the phone or TV. These devices really have the power to suck our energy if we let them. I take the first 20 minutes of my day to mediate, say my affirmations and take a moment to just pause, stop and listen. Listen to my breath and listen to another precious morning.


Every day I walk my dog Shazza sometimes with friends, if not I love to walk along the beach listening to something motivating. I love tuning into my favourite podcasts. If you saw me, I’m normally laughing or smiling to myself just because I feel so happy. My happy hormones are bouncing along inside me.


5 out of 7 days I read in the sunshine whilst having a coffee. Everyone at my local café is aware that I will show up about 1.30pm, most days with a book, a pen in my hand and my journal. I sit outside when the weather allows me and just drift off into my quiet time. I forget where I am. It's like I sit and go on a magic carpet ride.


After reading for about 45 minutes, I then take 15 minutes to write and reflect in my gratitude journal. Writing out a few things every day that I can be grateful for that have happened in my day thus far. It might be the book I am reading, the conversation I just had with someone, the sleep the night before, my yoga class or students. I just again take a few minutes to stop, pause and reflect on the magic in my day.


This habit is incredible. It has the ability to shift our mood instantaneously. It is one way to increase how you feel, so quickly. Gratitude is one of the best anecdotes for happiness.


I jump in the ocean most days throughout the year after I have taught my morning yoga class. This gives me the most incredible sense of feeling alive and just so much gratitude. Every day throughout winter I get so nervous and a huge amount of fear comes over me.


I have to continually remind myself that it's just water, so I quickly count myself down, run along the sand and jump in. I throw my hands up in the air and say thank you. The fresh cold water and being with nature just grounds. It's the most remarkable feeling and never gets boring.


Sleep in recent years has become a huge part of my self-care ritual.


Earlier in my life I definitely didn’t value sleep and I had the attitude that, ‘I could sleep when I’m dead. ’I felt it was such a waste of my time. Thankfully, I read a few books on the science and importance of sleep that I decided to shift my mindset and make it a priority to get 8 hours a night.


I invested in making my sleep more efficient by getting black out curtains helping to make my room pitch black and got myself an awesome eye mask.


Wow what a transformation!I noticed such a difference in my attitude towards life. I became so much more productive, happy, and had an incredible increase in energy. Sleep has helped me become a better, kind, more compassionate, patient human being.




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