DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOU ARE LOSING YOURSELF?
Can you get lost?
So often we wake up because we set an alarm, get to work to do the same thing daily and end the day watching the same tv shows that we have watched the last 4 seasons of and we often feel like we are losing ourselves. We are so caught up in the routine; we earn money to live and try to keep up with the Kardashians, we try to be organised so we can eat the correct food and feel good about ourselves that it often becomes a cycle of ups and downs. We can even find that we forget what it feels like to laugh and smile.
This can happen to me when I get so caught up in achieving my goals. A great passion that I have is to work hard and to set and achieve goals but I also need to remind myself how to smile and how to have fun. When spending the day at the home office to work, write or catch up on the invoices I can sometimes all day stay in my pyjamas because it is comfy but WOW how much more productive am I when I put a flattering outfit on and wear my bright red lips and WOW I feel amazing and I feel like I now have pride within myself.
I have tested this theory myself and with my own experiments, I know that this helps me feel good about myself. I am more productive and feel so much better about doing the daily tasks.
I have also seen this in some of my friends that they find this amazing guy and fall head over heels for him, which is so lovely but somewhere in the love they get lost. They stop doing the things that make them happy, stop seeing lots of their own friends and only go out as a couple. They become isolated in their relationship but in the meantime, fall out of connection with the girls and activities that have made them laugh and cry in the good and the bad times.
But something remarkable happens when we realise that we have lost ourselves we have to come to a realisation that some things need to change and we are forced to really discover and dig deep within ourselves again. We need to again learn what makes us feel great, what makes us feel alive. Sometimes it is making that choice to get up out of bed and go for a run before work instead of staying in and snuggling our partner for the extra few mins, sometimes it is making a date with the girls once a fortnight to catch up and have a dinner (the boyfriend will probably enjoy a night in front of the TV with a few beers or he himself might use it to go see his friends).
The truth to really knowing ourselves and what makes us happy is being honest; being honest to ourselves and then being honest with the people around us. Making it a habit that you do things for yourself as well as each other.
So, for me, this means once a week making a decision to meet up with one of my friends at least for maybe coffee, dinner or a dance out. It is time to be with the girls and just have fun and let my hair down.
This will also mean making time for me to read. I love to read and when I get caught up in doing the daily chores I forget that I need to make time every day to read to escape and to just connect with me.
My mum also can feel lost as she is caught up looking after and caring for her parents that she often feels lost. Of course, my mum loves her parents and loves to help out but she also has to remember to look after herself and if she doesn’t she can find herself running around fading into the shadows. My mum has made it necessary that she still makes it to her yoga class during the week as that’s what SHE LOVES!
What can you do this week to make sure that you are doing things for you? That you too don’t lose yourself?
“Our lives improve only when we take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” ~Walter Anderson